What would you want your final days to be like? Who needs to know?

It's hard to talk about end-of-life choices. We'd much rather hope that it never happens to us. Having a conversation before the crisis will allow time for honest discussion and can be a gift to those who will likely care for each other at end-of-life. Some important considerations include:

  • How do you feel about choices and care around the end-of-life?
  • What do you want?
  • What concerns might keep you up at night?
  • Who will make your decisions for you if you are unable?

How can you get the conversation started? Movies, books and TV shows often have story lines that introduce topics of illness. There are also times when the death of a friend allows you to consider what your choices might be in a similar situation. The important thing to remember is that it is never too early to have the conversation, although it can become too late. Visit our Encouraging the Conversation page for more tips.

Here is a short video about advance care planning to help get you started:

PBS has provided a helpful list of the documents that will help you prepare for end-of-life, along with tips on how to fill them out.

Other Resources:

Provider Orders for Life Sustaining Treatment

New Hampshire Advance Directives

NH Advance Care Planning Guide - General Information and New Hampshire forms for download

- pages 1-7, general information
- pages 8-12, NH Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care form
- pages 13-15, NH Declaration (living will) form

PDF and Powerpoint slides on ROI for Advance Directives.

Useful and practical information about Hospice, Palliative Care and Advance Directives on the NHPCO Caring Connections website - offers brochures and state-specific advance directives to provide you with information and resources for advance care planning.

Five Wishes - An inexpensive, helpful booklet to help you express how you want to be treated if you are seriously ill and unable to speak for yourself.

Caring Conversations - This website helps families share meaningful conversation while making practical preparations for end-of-life decisions. It offers a free workbook filled with thought-provoking questions.

End-of-Life Issues

Growth House: Guide To Death, Dying, Grief, Bereavement, and End-of-Life Issues - The Internet's leading portal for information about end-of-life care. Resources for death and dying, hospice and palliative care, grief, and related topics.

Dying Well - Hospice director Ira Byock's bestselling book provides information about dying and how to prepare to say goodbye.

AARP - End of Life Resources - Resources on End of Life, Living Wills, Dying and Death for those who are coping with the loss of a loved one.

Visit the NHHPCO Blog for more on the latest end of life issues.